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Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Pleasurists #38

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Pleasurists is a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #37? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #39? Submit it here before Sunday July 26th at 11:59pm PDT. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.


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Madame Editrix

Scarlet Lotus St. Syr


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Editor’s Pick



  • Lube & Lascivious Conduct: A quest for a lubricant that doesn’t suck by Dollfacekilla

  • No, a good lube is totally clear, and like a good joke, completely tasteless. I’m in the market for the good stuff so I’ve asked the friendly folks at TabuToys.com to provide me with a list of their top 10 selling sex lubricants for me to rate and compare. This will be an epic task requiring a cast-iron stomach and a sturdy wrist. But now it looks like I’m stalling and as Jane Gumb says, “It put’s the lotion on the skin or it get’s the hose.”


    Editor’s Note: While this was posted out of the date range of this Pleasurists I do make exceptions for exceptional reviews. I read this review a few weeks ago and didn’t know who was behind it but was ultimately impressed. I love the premise of the site as well as the reviews and product mentions, I love reviews of bad products that are snarky and witty and this one definitely fits that bill.


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Tuesday, June 30, 2009

Babeland Review: Sensuous Soak Kit

I recently had the privilege of trying out the Sensuous Soak kit for Babeland and all I can say is, Wow! I really loved everything about this kit but it seems to no longer be available at Babeland. That’s such a shame too because it really was an impressive kit!

The first thing I noticed about the Sensuous Soak kit was that it was all neatly packaged inside of a pink Babeland gift bag. I’m actually surprised that all of the contents were able to fit inside so well but it is definitely a cute package perfect for gifting! Anyone would love to receive it! I know that I personally would welcome a gift like this on any day, for any occasion, so hopefully they be restocking it soon!

I’m going to go over each individual item for you and you’ll be amazed at how many fabulous items are crammed in there! Each of the following items is included in the Senuous Soak kit to make for a wonderfully relaxing escape any day of the week!

1. Babeland’s own bubble bath! It’s scent is called, “Afternoon Delight” which I found to have a light, pleasant scent that is gender neutral. I asked my husband what his feelings were on the scent and he said that it just smelled clean. He wasn’t turned off by it at all and it didn’t smell like a bouquet of flowers. Either way, I doubt that anyone will find the scent offensive and I liked it!

We thought the bubbles foamed really well to provide us with a nice and thick, long lasting bubble bath. They lasted probably around 30-45 minutes which was long enough for us to do what we needed to do in the tub. They were still present after 30-45 minutes, just not as thick as before. We were done at that point and ready to get out though.

The ingredients for
Babeland’s bubble bath are printed on the 250 ml. bottle and they are as follows:

Purified water (agua), sodium laureth sulfate, cocamide, MEA, cocamidoproyl betaine, sodium chloride, polysorbate 80, shea butter, fragrance, DMDM hydantoin, FD&C Yellow #5, and FD&C Blue #1.

2. The personal vibrating foam sponge by Body Spa was also fantastic! We found it to be a quality sponge that lathered easily and really enhanced our bath time fun. Not only did it relax our muscles when we used it on each others neck and shoulders but it also aroused our other senses when used elsewhere. It was definitely a wonderful bonus that not only helped us relax but also helped us to get in the mood!

When our playtime was over, I decided to try and locate the vibrator inside the sponge. I did this in an attempt to let you all know if this sponge is a one time use job or if it is reusable. What I found was that there is a very small hole/canal that you can access the bullet vibe through. You can, with some careful effort, remove this bullet from the sponge. It is a very shiny, silver colored plastic bullet that has an O-ring around it’s battery cap. Ours did not leak at all and the watch batteries are easily changed to use it again! Putting the bullet back inside of the sponge was much easier for me than taking it out. I’m just glad that it isn’t a throw away item!

3. The
Jimmyjane Afterglow massage candle in cucumber water scent was amazing! This candle is just beautiful and it smells good too! It comes in a box to protect it and the first thing you notice when you lift the flap of the cardboard are the words, “Melt Me”. Further unfolding of the box allows you to access the manual which has instructions in English, French, Spanish, German and Dutch.

Under the manual, there is a fabulous box of matches so your sure to be able to light your new candle anywhere! There are a lot of matches in this box and it will, more than likely, outlive the candle itself. I’m still amazed!

Finally, you’ll be able to remove your candle as well as the included brush that will allow you to spread melted wax all over your lover. Of course, you’ll have to burn the candle for about 30 minutes or so beforehand or you’re just not going to be able to get any massage oil out. Sorry but that’s just the way it is.

4. Last but not at all least, we have a waterproof (Yes, waterproof!) book called,
“Aqua erotica.” It’s got 18 wonderful stories and about 204 pages so you’re sure to have something to do in the tub even if your lover isn’t home. It’s well written by several different authors but it’s edited by Mary Anne Mohanraj. It’s a great read and most of, if not all of the stories, involve some sort of water so it’s especially great for those who have a water fetish!

I know what you’re thinking about a water proof book too. No, this is not a waterproof book like toddlers take into the bathtub. It’s much more advanced than that, I promise! The cover and pages actually feel very similar to a regular paper back book, just not quite as papery. You can even tear the pages if you’re trying to make a point for your readers to let them know how similar they are to actual pages. You can really get it wet without damaging it too! Yes, I tried to drown mine for you but I simply toweled it off before leaving it open to thoroughly dry in a well ventilated area and it’s now just fine. It’s actually pretty amazing and I think they should make more books like this for those nights that I’m reading and snacking at the same time. That way I can just wipe them off when I miss my mouth because I’m not watching what I’m doing.

So, yeah, this is a fantastic kit and I loved all of it’s components. Not only did the candle help set the mood for the bubble bath but it also provided a nice melted wax massage afterwards. The bubbles, vibrating sponge and book were a sinful indulgence that I’m glad I was able to share with my lover too. It was a perfect escape to an isolated place where we could both relax, even if it was just our bathroom! It was truly a wonderful evening.

Want to see what other kits are available at Babeland today? Go check them out for yourself because I’m sure your gonna find something you love! Have fun and until next time, Muaaahhh!













Monday, June 22, 2009

A relationship confession

It's been hot here for days and I'm starting to feel as though I simply can't take it anymore. It's not supposed to be like this already! For crying out loud, it isn't August! Where did these 90-100 degree days come from?! UGH!

These hot days pose so many problems for me that you have no idea! I'm now stuck in this house with three kids because it's too hot outside for me to feel comfortable sending them outside for awhile. This leads to all three kids fighting, all three kids wanting to take over my big HDTV for their games, all three kids fighting over the TV I have granted them permission to play their games on, all three kids complaining that they're bored and all three kids wanting to go to their Grandma's house. Now, I have no problem with them going to their Grandma's house mind you! In fact, I really enjoy it but before you get the wrong idea here, I love my kids like nobodies business! I just need breaks from them sometimes or nothing ever gets done! As a matter of fact, I'd probably shrivel up into a mumbling ball of insanity if I didn't get breaks from them once in awhile!

I have to admit that these hot days have taught me a few things about my relationship. I know that sounds odd but you have to hear me out first! It all started when the love of my life just happened to be working on the riding lawnmower. The NEW riding lawnmower that I gifted to him last father's day mind you! Just the fact that it was broken already led me to the conclusion that this was as good an excuse as any to argue with him. My hopes were that I'd get him riled up enough that he'd come inside to the air conditioning to give me a good spanking but it didn't work! Damn it, it didn't work! The upside of this is that the grass is now all mown nicely, though a bit dry and perhaps dead looking due to the heat but I will NOT walk through the yard if I can't see what's in the grass! There could be like five snakes in there waiting to get me! EEKK! Okay, probably not but you get the idea....

Through my attempts to get him riled up at me, I realized that he's better at relationships than I am! How is that possible?! Well, it's actually kind of simple when you think about it. First of all, unlike me, he lets things go very easily. I mean, I could stand there and list a hundred things that I don't like about him but they all just roll of his back......well, usually. I mean, we all have our exceptions, right? Anyway, I could say anything and he simply won't argue with me. I can tell him what a dick he's being and he'll simply say, "Yeah, but you love me anyway." What kind of an argument starter is that?

The next thing I noticed about him was that he knows how to keep things exciting. You know how when you're just starting out in a relationship and everything is new and full of sexual tension? Well, after awhile that tends to wear off and things may become a bit predictable or even boring. He knows how to get around this though! He knows how to set up date nights and take me out to dinner without even knowing what is going on until I'm sitting down at a table somewhere. He's also fantastic about bringing home flowers to surprise me with. It's the little things like that and speaking of the little things, he'll even hug me and tell me how beautiful I am even after I've been working in the vegetable garden. I can be covered in dirt and sweat from my head to my toes and he'll still grab me and love on me! Wow, right?

Another wonderful thing about him is that he knows how to love me. That may sound weird but we all need love in different ways whether that be confessions of love or through actions like hugs and strokes. We're all different in that respect but he KNOWS how to love ME and I love that about him. He also never goes to long throughout the day without flirting with me. There's nothing like flirting to make me feel sexy and wanted!

What all of this boils down to though is that he's better at this than I am. I'm willing to admit this right now but I probably won't later. I suck at relationships for the most part but he doesn't. I don't feel like he should be the only one working on these things though and I should really step up to the plate but damn it! I fucking LOVE the make-up sex! How am I ever going to get any make-up sex if I can't get him to argue with me! I crave that raw attraction when everything you've been holding onto suddenly lets go and you just go at it! Yeah, that's some good stuff right there! Maybe that's my contribution though.....who knows?

Thursday, June 11, 2009

Pleasurists #32

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via art-or-porn from www.nuexpo.com


Pleasurists is your round-up of the adult product reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #31? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #33? Submit it here before Sunday June 14th at 11:59pm PDT. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.


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Madame Editrix

Scarlet Lotus St. Syr


On to the reviews…


Editor’s Pick



  • Midgets, fat men and baby carriages…oh my! Ninn Worx Collector’s Edition of “Catherine” by Laurel

  • [F]rankly, I don’t think good porn should leave you questioning what you just saw. I don’t think good porn should leaving you thinking at all after watching it. [...] So, if you can ignore the midget, the fat man and the baby carriage and everything else that seems out of place in an adult film, this is totally worth watching.


    Editor’s Note: I love unique products and good reviews, and this review happens to have both! It’s amusing while giving a good idea of the movie and just how amazingly weird it is. Artistic porn sounds like a good idea, right?


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Sunday, June 7, 2009

Babeland Review: The Angel

The Angel, by Fun Factory, is a travel friendly, compact vibe with an overall length of about 5 ½" but due to the battery cap on the bottom, and the control buttons on the base of the shaft, only 4" are insertable. Of course that should be ample length for using the curved tip to stimulate your g-spot or clit but it may not be a hit with those who love deep penetration.

The Angel is made from some of the softest silicone I’ve ever felt! It’s so soft that it almost feels like jelly but it’s way more hygienic than jelly could ever dream of being! Silicone is non-porous, phthalate free and sterilizable and that means that you can share this one with a friend or two. Since it does contain vibrating components and controls, your best bet for sterilization is wiping it down with a 10% bleach solution followed by a good rinse. If you aren’t going to share it and only need to clean it for yourself, just wash it off with antibacterial soap and water or your favorite toy cleaner.

Due to the softness and flexibility of the silicone that the Angel is comprised of, I found g-spot stimulation to be more of a tickle rather than a good, strong pressure. I like pressure, so the Angel was a miss for me in that respect but others may find the teasing to be more pleasant than I did. It was just so close to providing the pressure I needed that I found myself becoming frustrated with it. That’s when I decided to focus more on other sensations it was providing rather than being so focused on my g-spot alone.

The Angel has a diameter of about 1 ½" that provided me with a nice “filling” sensation and the vibrations were easily felt throughout the lower portion of my vagina. There are eight speeds of steady vibrations that range in intensity from barely on up to an easily felt intensity on the highest setting but I found them to be too buzzy and superficial. I couldn’t help but lust after more power than what the Angel could deliver. Of course, that’s just me and I am aware that there are those of you out there who don’t require the amount of power that I crave and the Angel may be just what you’re looking for. It’s definitely a good choice for those of you out there who happen to have a sensitive clit because this one has some pretty low level intensities that you would appreciate.

There are three patterns of vibration with the Angel too. These patterns are pulse patterns that start off with a long pulse variation followed by a shorter pulse with the last patten being the fastest of the pulses. These were fun to play around with but couldn’t quite push me over the edge. These too were just lacking the power that I needed to achieve orgasm.

The controls are fairly simple to operate via the + and - push buttons located on the base of the silicone shaft. You push the + button to turn it on and push it again to increase the speed. You can also just hold it down to zoom up to the highest intensity of steady vibration. Once you’ve reached the highest speed of steady vibration, you simply hold the + button down again to switch into the pulse patterns. Push it again to cycle through the three options of pulse patterns. To switch back into steady vibrations, just push the - button. Then push it again to decrease the power or simply hold it down to zoom down to the lowest speed setting. To shut it off, push the - button while you are on the lowest speed setting and that’s it! That’s all you need to know to operate this vibe!

The batteries are easy to insert via the twist off battery cap at the base of the vibe. It’s clearly marked on the battery compartment for proper installation of the 2-AAA’s and then you twist the cap back on. It does a sort of push in, then half twist to close. It’s fairly secure and I haven’t had a problem with it popping off during use. There is a rubber “O” ring located on the threads to make this vibe splash proof and that’s always a plus to help make cleaning a bit easier!

One thing that the Angel has excelled at is being quiet! This vibe may be a bit short on power for me but it’s a good trade off for the discreetness! My husband couldn’t even hear this vibe from across the room on high speed! This is definitely a great choice if you ever plan on using a vibe in public because I doubt that anyone would hear it!

Just remember that this vibe is silicone so you should probably only use water based lubricants with it. Silicone will adhere to silicone so definitely don’t use silicone based lubes with this one or it could damage that lovely finish.

All in all, the Angel may not have been a complete success for me but it definitely has a lot of potential for other users. I’d definitely recommend it for someone looking for a discreet vibrator but probably not as a good g-spot vibe. I’d also recommend it for someone looking for an “on-the-go” toy because it’s quite portable. Not only would it fit easily into a purse but it would probably fit into a lot of pockets too.

The smoothness and softness of the silicone will also make this a great choice for those who don’t like the rigidity of some toys. It’s quite comfortable when inserted because of this but it just didn’t win me over like I had hoped it would. It may be the perfect toy for you but I won’t be parting with my Hitachi for this one anytime soon!

Does this sound like a toy that you’d be interested in? Then head over to Babeland today to get your hands on one for yourself!










Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Sextoys.com: Wishlist Contest Entry

When I saw that Sextoys.com was having such a fantastic contest that could potentially make my toy box overflow, I couldn't wait to participate! They have such a fantastic assortment that I wasn't sure just how I was going to fill my wishlist though! So many choices, oh my!

Here's what I came up with and I'm so excited for whoever wins! Good luck to everyone!

1. Kama Sutra Lover's Paint Box because sex and chocolate go hand in hand at our house! $40.49

2. Dust Your Sweetie-Pink Flirt because it would be a blast to tickle my lover with this delectable dust to lick off later! $33.89

3. Deluxe Leather Bondage Kit because it has everything I need to keep my lover right were I want him! $55.89

4. Strict Leather Sling and Stirrups because it promises that I will feel every inch my lover has to offer as well as giving me an oral sex experience like no other! $197.49

5. Elite 7X Sex Exciter Ruby because I love for his cock to vibrate and maybe it will even keep him from getting off too soon! $46.49

6. Cock Ring Leather W/Red Heart because it would look so cute on my lover's cock! $23.89

7. LAYAspot massager (Vanilla/Chocolate) because my clit needs some lovin'! $70.49

8. Rhinestone Sub-Collar because maybe if my sweetie had a collar on me with a leash, he could pull it instead of my hair! $60.89

9. BWarm Soy Massage Candle in Fig because it would help set the mood and smell oh, so nice! $27.89

10. Liv in Navy Blue because it's silicone, rechargeable and beautiful! $107.49

11. Massage Candle Aphrossia/Roses because I love candles and candles that melt into massage oil are even better! $21.49

12. SportSheet-King Size Restraints because they would be so easy and fun to use! $183.19

13. Dream Maker Lunar Rabbit-Pink because it will ensure liberation of my sexual soul! $88.49

14. Don Wands Clear Nubby Swirl because I love warmed glass toys to help sooth me into oblivion! $29.89

15. Pink Water 1.7 Oz. because I'm really going to need some lube with all of this! $9.49

16. Vivid Extra Thin 3 PK Condom because, well, my husband is going to want to fuck me after watching me play with all of the above. $2.49

And there you have it! My wishlist for the Sextoys.com contest! The total on this Wishlist is $999.94 and you can read more about this contest at Sextoys.com!

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Pleasurists #31

erotique

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Pleasurists is your round-up of the adult product reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #30? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #32? Submit it here before Sunday June 7th at 11:59pm PDT. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.


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Madame Editrix

Scarlet Lotus St. Syr


On to the reviews…


Editor’s Pick



  • Baby Jesus Buttplug by Red

  • The Baby Jesus butt plug looks like a sweet little babe all wrapped up in a blanket – fresh from the manger, one would presume. He tapers down to a nice narrowed butt plug neck at the bottom of his baby cocoon, and is propped up on a nicely flared base. His adorable little face is innocent and cherubic, and frankly, not super distinctly “Jesus” looking.


    Note: When the review gives me a boner just from seeing what the item being reviewed is I can’t not make it my pick of the week. Seriously, though, it’s always wonderful to see a review of a unique product and I especially love how the review was defended in the comments, like she said: “While some might not like/buy/see a point in this product, some might think exactly the opposite. That’s the beauty of individuality!” I’m definitely one of those opposites! While I’d seen the product before this is the first review I’ve seen.


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Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Babeland review: The Boss!

The Boss, is the BOSS! But, there appears to be several different versions of the Boss so I’ll be focusing on the version that I personally have. The version that I have is a Babeland exclusive g-spot vibrator from Fun Factory. It’s pretty hefty in size at 1 3/5" in diameter and has a lusciously curved head to provide ample g-spot stimulation. It’s overall length is 8 3/4" with 6 1/2" being the insertable portion.

The battery cap and controls on mine are very similar to the Ellove that I also own. I have a bit of difficulty getting these caps closed but once they are closed, everything works fine and they have never popped off during use. They sort of push on then twist rather than just screwing on but I guess it could just be me that’s the problem. I’m not really known as being the most coordinated person so who knows? Either way, once it’s shut, it’s shut and that’s all that really matters.

The controls consist of a + and - button that obviously either increase or decrease the vibrations. The + button will initially turn the vibe on to a low, steady vibration. This is followed by two more speeds of steady vibration. Pushing the + button again while it’s on high will allow you to cycle through the three different patterns of vibration. When your ready to turn it off, just push the - button until it shuts off. There is also an additional button that is intended for a brief boost of power. This button only mildly increases the power from the 4-AAA's and only "boosts" the power as long as you hold it down. This was a bit of a problem for me when things got slippery because I wasn’t able to push it when I needed too. There wasn’t a problem when my partner used it on me so I guess it’s more of a solo issue and again, it could just be me.

As far as how the Boss felt, I really loved it....a lot! That’s surprising to me because I usually don’t go for the bigger vibes but there’s just something about this one. It’s made from silicone that is soft and velvety so there is some give to it when it’s inserted which makes it quite comfortable yet filling. It’s not rigid and that’s always a plus for me when it comes to size. The bigger a dildo is with me, the more flexible it must be or it’s going to be a no-go! The Boss passed this test and felt amazing while doing it! It really hit all the right internal spots for me and the ridge under the head was easily felt against my vaginal walls. It’s much more stimulating than I had originally thought it would be and that was definitely a nice surprise!

The vibrations from the Boss really didn’t do much for my clit but hey, it really isn’t designed for that. The vibrations shined for me when they were used internally. They somehow even seemed stronger from inside than what they had been during external use on my clit. I really can’t explain why that happened with me but it’s true. The vibrations just felt more intense from inside my cunt. It turned out to be quite easy for me to get off on this one even without any added clitoral stimulation. Just for the record though, I have never been able to squirt but I do have g-spot orgasms and this one did provide me with some very satisfying ones indeed! Unfortunately though, I still did not squirt. Alas, I think my squirter is broken.

As sensual and stimulating as I found the Boss to be, I’m happy to report that it really isn’t that loud either. While it could probably be heard through the blankets, I could not hear it through our closed bedroom door but to be honest, I wouldn’t care how loud this vibe was because I’d use it anyway! I love it that much! Everyone within earshot of me should count themselves lucky though! They’ll only have to put up with my loud moans when I’m using this one!

The insertable portion of the Boss is made from 100% silicone so it has no smell, is non porous and phthalate free so water-based lubes only! This also means that you could share it if you could pry it out of your hands! Just make sure to wipe it down with a 10% bleach solution followed by a good rinse first. If sterilization isn’t required, simply wash it off with antibacterial soap and water or use your favorite toy cleaner according to its directions. The Boss is splash-proof too and that always helps out during cleanup! Just keep in mind that you probably shouldn’t submerge this one though.

Well, it really didn’t take long for the Boss to win me over! Its won a place of honor in my bedroom and I’ll admit that it definitely is THE BOSS! Just remember that it’s only available from Babeland so go check it out to get your own! Just be advised that I believe it has been replaced by the Boss Lady. The Boss Lady appears to be identical to the Boss that I received except mine is black instead of a vibrant hot pink. Check out the pictures of mine below!













Sunday, May 24, 2009

Where the hell have I been?

Well, you see, life has this funny way of happening all around you no matter what you've got going on. Sometimes life happens in and jumps up to bite me on the ass so I'll pay more attention to things than I normally do. Maybe so that I will look more deeply into my husbands eyes or be more observant of the silly things that my kids are doing so I'll be able to remember them for a lifetime.

It all started because of the recent storms. We got a lot of them in my area. So much so that the schools even closed down. Roads were washed out, houses were flooded and the power was off for days! Then another storm came through. I didn't think I would ever get my phone service back! My vegetable garden was lost and had to be replanted but things are finally back to normal. Hopefully that is as bad as the storms will get this year and I can get on with our summer plans now. Being stuck in a house with everyone and no electricity got pretty crazy. Everyone was cranky and it was easy for tempers to flair. We had our share of arguments but nothing too bad until after the storms. Yes me and my wonderful husband had a pretty heated argument. Nothing physical mind you! Well, unless you count the few times I slapped him. Nah! We won't count those!

What were we fighting about? Well, I was mad. Not at him but at the fact that I could possibly be losing a member of my family very soon. This person was refusing at the time to be treated and I'm still unsure of their final decision but this infuriated me! I wasn't supposed to tell my husband which led to me yelling and being mad at him. Mostly because he was there I guess. He had no idea what was wrong with me and I'd hurt him so he yelled back. There was a lot of things on both ends being yelled but the thing that allowed me to continue being mad at him was because I was hurting and he couldn't tell! Of all the people in my life, how could he not tell? How could he not see that something was seriously wrong? How could he not see how much I needed him to hold me close and tell me everything was going to be okay? WHY?! Was he blind? Well, no, he wasn't blind. He was just unaware. I'm sorry that he didn't know but now he does regardless of my promise because I couldn't carry this burden all alone. I opened up to him about it and needless to say, he felt bad that he didn't see it too. So, here we are.... Now what?

My point I am trying to make here is don't let stupid little arguments stop you from enjoying those you love because, honestly, you never know when that moment is going to be your last. Maybe your last moment to be happy and enjoy being together without learning of a serious condition that could take their life soon. There's always other things that could happen too. Car wrecks, heart attack or anything! You just never know. I don't want to be someone who wakes up one day all alone and a widow thinking about all of the times I could have really enjoyed being with my husband rather than arguing with him. How stupid that would be for me to waste the time I had with him being mad about something trivial! From this moment on, I pledge to always look deeper into his eyes and softly trace the lines of his body as I try to imprint them into my brain so that I'll never forget no matter what! I want to always remember how my fingers and hands feel running over his smooth skin and the way it looks and even the way it changes color as I drag my nails across it. I don't ever want to forget any of it so long as I live.

Thursday, May 7, 2009

HNT!

Well, it's Half-Nekkid Thursday again so I've decided to post a picture of my own this week. I hope you like it!








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Wednesday, May 6, 2009

Sextoy.com's "Give me Fever"-Sex Toys Giveaway Contest!

Sextoy.com’s “Give me Fever”— Sex Toys Giveaway Contest!


Spring is finally upon us, the time when lovers get frisky and people’s minds turn to sex! To help get you motivated and to celebrate May as Masturbation Month, Sextoy.com is partnering with the Pleasurists.com for the “Give me Fever”— Sex Toys Giveaway Contest with $500 in prize package swag giveaways!


The Prize Packages!


1st Prize- Fetish Fantasies- Value $220


Fantasy sex swing - black by Pipe Dreams - $130
Fetish fantasy bed restraint bondage kit by Eldorado- $40
Leather Cockring With Micro-Vibrator by California Exotics- $25
Ryder - Midnight Purple by Tantus- $25

2nd Prize- Sexy Girl Bling- Value $145


Ultimate Clit Caresser - Clear Aurora by Arabesque - $100
Sinsation Glass G-spot Dildo by Ruby Glass- $20
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Sexual freedom?

My last post kind of touched on my previous life or so I like to call it. I call it my previous life because you would never guess that I am even remotely the same person now. You see, sex toys were taboo for me before. Sure, I’ve always been interested in them but I was told things like, "Sex toys are only for whores." or "What do you need something like that for? I’m all you need." Yeah, crap like that. It’s hard to say what would have happened in a situation where I had purchased one during the time that I was married to my Ex and he would have found it. I shudder to think! Anyway, that’s all water under the bridge now and I don’t like to re-visit that part of my life. I’m just glad it’s over and I’m free to do whatever I damn well please now!

My current partner is truly the love of my life and I really believe that we are soul mates or whatever you’d like to call it. He’s there for me no matter what I want and he never judges me or restrains me. Well....okay, maybe he has restrained me before but not in a bad way! He’s totally open to anything and everything I want to do. He’s totally there for me no matter what and I love that about him! The best thing about him is that he’s never called me a whore even though I now have an entire bedroom full of sex toys! He’s even just as excited as I am when we’re waiting for that new shipment to arrive! I can truly be free with him to express myself sexually and trust me, I can get pretty freaky sometimes but when you consider my previous constraints, well........it all has a tendency to come out at once sometimes! You know what though? He loves it and he feels free to express himself as well. I think that is a very important part of a relationship because there’s just nothing greater than total freedom in the bedroom!

Just to let you know, I will be posting an HNT picture so don’t forget to check that out too!

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

It's funny. I usually like the rain....

It’s a rainy day today and I’m not sure why but it’s making me feel rather blue. I usually like the rain but today it’s giving me too much time to think. Its been a long road to get where I am today and I normally don’t share too much of that with anyone but for some reason I feel like sharing today. I think I’ll blame it on the rain.

You see, I’ve spent the last four years of my life in and out of courtrooms being accused of the most insane allegations you could ever imagine. No, I’m not in trouble with the law and I never have been. The allegations stem from my ex-husband, who you have to realize, didn’t want a divorce. To put it simply, I was a battered woman. That sounds so cliche to me for some reason. Even though I type those words and know they are true, I still can’t convince myself that I was in fact a battered woman. Not me! Sure, things got rough and I even have a few broken bones to remind me but how could I be a battered woman? I’m sure there are others out there who know exactly how I feel but if you’ve never experienced it for yourself, I’m not sure you can relate. To be completely honest, I’m not sure that I will ever be able to call myself a battered woman without feeling a pang of shame for some reason. It may be stupid of me to feel that way but I can’t help it.

I’m not going to go completely into how it all came to be but trust me when I say that he was never like this from the beginning. I had no way of knowing that things would end up the way that they did. How could I have known? How does anyone ever know? It just did and I felt trapped with no way to change the course of things. At first I was under the impression that if you can make it past the five year mark in your marriage, things would get better....or so the saying goes. I can assure you that this saying is totally incorrect and if you find yourself in a situation like this, get out as soon as you can! Things won’t get better and it’s highly unlikely that he will change. I know because I’ve heard the promises and apologies first hand. I had to realize for myself that I deserved better than this. That my life was more important than to spend it like this. Yes, I was told by many people that I should leave but it really didn’t matter how many people told me this. I had to make the decision for myself. No one else could do it for me. Maybe I was too stubborn to admit that my marriage had failed or maybe I was just too damn stubborn all around but I do know that the more I was told to leave, the more determined it made me to make things work out. I know now how dumb that sounds but it’s true. That’s just the place I was in at that time in my life. The worst part of it was the main question everyone couldn’t wait to ask. "Why did you stay?" While this is a good question, I can’t answer it and no one every placed the blame where it belonged and asked him, "Why did you do this?" Why was I the one berated with questions of "Why" when he wasn’t? Why did he get off so easy? Sure, he was an upstanding and wonderful addition to society in the public eye but everything changed as soon as the door closed at home. It truly was like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. That’s the only way I can explain it. Even my sister-in-law, who I’m not so fond of anymore, literally thought I was lying to her. Her exact words were, "Are you sure?" What the fuck kind of question is that? How could I have not been sure? For me, that question only fueled the belief that what he had said was true. "No one will believe you." Well, you know what? They did believe me and still do! It was one hell of a fight that lasted practically four years but I won. I’m living proof that he was wrong. To be honest though, I really did expect to fail and it was such a huge victory for me when I didn’t. I really can’t explain the feeling that this victory brought about in me either. It was just undescribable. Oh, and all of the allegations he made against me, no one believed him! It’s almost like he tried to turn a divorce trial into a criminal trial. Seriously, you name it and he accused me of it. There’s nothing you can imagine that wasn’t alleged against me by him. You know who wound up being thrown into jail though? Him! I can just imagine his disgust when they hauled him off. If you ask me though, it was just another small victory for me.

Oddly enough, I met the love of my life during my four years in hell. It was such a huge shock to me too. I had sworn off any kind of relationships because I didn’t want to deal with one anymore. I had screwed up so bad the first time around anyway, why would I ever want to try again? Well, I didn’t want to but life has this funny way of proving you wrong when you least expect it. I met him through a mutual acquaintance and while I didn’t want to be left in the same room alone with him at first, we hit it off and he was just so oddly familiar to me. He set up these sort of "group" outings and dinners with a friend of ours because he was attracted to me too. So yeah, even though I was rather standoffish and not looking to commit to anything at that point, he gently pursued me to the point that he won me over. Don’t get me wrong, he hadn’t completely won me over because something in me had changed. I literally put him through hell trying to push him away. I wanted to make him leave and not want anything to do with me because I didn’t ever want to feel so weak again. I would even do things just to piss him off to see how violent he would become. You know what though? He knew what I was doing and it was killing him a little to see me so desperately trying to push him away. I have no idea what he ever saw in me or what he still sees today but he learned how to handle me and my emotions. He never left my side since then and has never wanted to. I can’t tell you why unless he’s just crazy but I’m so glad! There was even a point where I would just go to him after a court hearing and cry in his arms. No words, just sobs of pain that needed to come out. He was there for me like no one ever has been before and I can’t see myself without him now. The best part of it is, he’s never laid a hand on me unless I wanted him to. He’s just that awesome!

Even though I am now happier than I ever have been, I still have pain that surfaces time and again. I will probably never be as carefree as I once was but I’m getting there slowly. The fact that I know there is someone out there who would kill me if they could get away with it shakes me sometimes. I have this constant fear that one day he will pull up behind me when I’m out and take all of my happiness away. I know it’s irrational to think this way but that is my biggest fear. That one day, he’ll catch up to me and take away everything that I care about to get back at me for leaving him.